A LETTER TO MY BEAUTIFUL LADIES
Dear beautiful and wonderful ladies,
Do not look away, yes I am referring to you. You are beautiful and wonderful no matter what the world may tell you or whatever you believe yourself, embrace the truth that you are beautiful and wonderful.
I write this letter to you with so much love from my heart to you because my heart breaks with the way so many ladies carry themselves.
I understand that as ladies one of our ‘mumu’ buttons is when people shower us with compliments, gifts or anything that shows that we are really cared for. We could blush purple when these things are done and we all pray to have a caring husband and one who can cater for the family. Most importantly we love hardworking guys who provide a security.
I am sorry to bust your bubble, those gifts, recharge cards, ice cream, pizza, pocket money, phone, hair … you are not entitled to it. If you have a guy that showers you with so much love that is great! He is a keeper hold on to him, but it still doesn’t mean it is your entitlement. He is doing it out of the love he has for you, although some guys do it for ulterior motives (Let’s not go into that now).
The fact that he is now your Boo doesn’t mean he should become the Jehovah Jireh of your life (You are not even married). If you want to make your hair, you call him, ordinary pad you will call him, Biko what do you even want to do for yourself? Do you just want to be a liability or an asset?
Don’t get me all wrong, I am not saying you should hook up with a stingy guy; in fact a guy being stingy is a red flag. Love is about giving, but the giving shouldn’t be forced and shouldn’t be one sided. A guy who truly loves you will give without you even asking (Although some guys though… let me keep quiet) also if you love him you will give too. What is good for the goose is good for the gander.
The summary of it all is that you should erase that entitlement mentality from your mind, no one owes you anything in this life, so don’t assume you have a right to demand from every Tim, Nick and Harry.
Develop and invest in every area of your life, physically, emotionally, spiritually, financially etc. Be an independent lady so that in marriage you and your spouse can be interdependent.
I ask this question again, are you an asset or a liability?
I love you so much!
A concerned citizen of the Female Republic of Nigeria.